Little Things Make The Big Picture

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How many times do we rush off somewhere to work or an errand because the day is so busy? Many of us live to work,but I work to live. I have learned to appreciate and slow down for all the little moments that make up the big picture in life.

For me it’s getting that kiss or hug from my husband and kids before we all begin our day. The friendly wave from the crossing guards I see when I drop my son off at school. The trips to the park, pool or anywhere with my family. Talking with friends and family over a healthy Lunch or dinner. A Fun game night with cherished friends.The Much needed quiet break or nap by yourself. A thank you or any gratitude for a little gesture of kindness.

No matter who you are all these little things add up to a lot to make someones day better. These little things make our day worth it and help us look forward to another day. The little things help us lead a healthy and happy life.

The struggle over Raising our Girls vs Boys

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Why do we raise boys and girls so differently? Maybe it’s all the different hormones that make it harder for men and women to understand each other.

Most parents will tell you that raising a child is the hardest thing you will ever do. Whether boy or girl, each child is a little different and there are always challenges. There is no cookie cutter to the perfect child because they are all unique in some way.

As a child grows up you encounter so many changes from baby to toddler and then teenager. When a child is young you marvel at all the new things they say and do.As your child learns to read and write they are watching, listening and learning our every move.Once they reach middle school and high school they have an overly informed opinion of you and other parents. After all, even if we weren’t actively teaching them they were learning what they heard and saw. Good or Bad results is up to you as a parent.

The one thing that boys and girls have in common is competing with each other. It’s always about who can one up the other,whether it’s sports, clothing, electronics, money or a new trend. As people we all want to belong in a group or be noticed for something.

For a girl who grew up as an only child I learned to do many things myself and had close boy cousins with a few girl friends. I grew up as a a bit of a tomboy so it was always difficult for me to get into the princess type drama and catty nature of most girls.

As a mother who has had a few experiences with several spoiled teenage and preteen girls with divorced parents I can tell you they create more drama and difficulties than the boys.Boys usually do naughty things to get attention but girls can be very deceitful,catty,bossy and moody drama queens.

Many men and women create little princess girls who gradually take on defiant behavior. The Princess type girls seem to get hurt feelings over small things, tease other kids not like them,constantly cry over things and try to get back at you for crazy reasons.Spoiled young princess girls seem to want things their way or no way. It doesn’t seem to matter if you promise them the rainbow, they want more. You can cart her back and forth to softball, let her have friends overnight or at friends’ houses, you do crafts with them, go to the pool, shopping and more.

On the other hand,most boys are taught to not show their feelings,plus have a more sarcastic, abrasive and joking demeanor.They are rambunctious, get into fights and yell more. I have seen so many boys and young men think they have to always be rough, tough, tell you like it is and get over things faster. They often will just go with the flow with things.

Many Husbands and wives seem to be at odds at how to handle the boys vs girls. I have seen many parents sugar coat bad behavior until it bursts out of control.I know my husband tells the boys to suck things up and always used to baby his girl.Where I would try to find out what was wrong no matter boy or girl and bandage up their boo boos and egos.

Now let me say, as a parent we do a lot for our kids and put up with a lot of stuff from our kids. There are times that we don’t know how to handle a situation.No matter boys or girls,we sometimes lose our cool and use the wrong language when we are upset with a child who will no longer listen or obey the rules. As parents we have to juggle work along with constantly keeping multiple kids entertained over long summers, so things become difficult. Even when we don’t mean it,out can come horrific words you are not supposed to say. Usually at this point both parents finally agree to be on the same page because the defiant behavior is too much.

As adults, we have plenty more experience than you and usually we will know exactly what to do. Just know as parents and adults, we are still constantly learning. Just like kids we need to be taken care of and steered in the right direction. We struggle with times where we just want to curl into a ball with all of our stresses and troubles to just pretend they don’t exist. Many times we are so exhausted or sick that we don’t have enough energy to deal with drama. There are times when we’re just having a bad day and we may have a bad attitude just like you.

Parents aren’t superhuman, we are just people that are doing the best we can to love you completely.We’ll always do everything we can to love and support you as our kids, but please realize that as parents we still need love, hugs, compassion and support to keep us going just like you.

The last  two paragraphs were revamped, but Originally posted on The Dad Letters:

Are We unknowingly Gluttons for Gluten?

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Why do so many doctors in the US ignore that many more people than you think are affected by gluten? It is because they are backed by big pharmaceutical and food companies, plus not taught the importance of  food intolerances on health. Other countries like Australia, Ireland,Italy, Finland and South America recognize food intolerances, especially gluten.If you have a disease like Crohn’s,Colitis, diabetes,Celiac, autism,thyroid disease, migraines and more, you can vastly improve your health.

Many people don’t even understand just how much gluten is hidden in all of our foods. Since the late 60’s and early 70’s the food industry has introduced more hidden gluten containing foods than people ever used to eat. Almost all of our boxed, bottled and packaged food products have outrageous amounts of gluten and other unnatural ingredients.People used to eat more real homegrown and homemade foods. Now because of stress, poor diet, fast paced lives and different bacteria from other places coming into our lives, the gene has been awakened more in many people.

Gluten is the protein component in wheat, Barley, Rye and a sticky binding substance added to many foods. Many of us have digestive systems that cannot digest gluten protein into amino acid building blocks.When this happens the inside of our intestines become inflamed and release antibodies that can cause a cavalcade of reactions throughout the body. It is estimated that 1 out of 133 Americans have gluten sensitivity or even Celiac disease.The gene for Celiac and gluten intolerance is usually carried throughout a families genetics.

Celiac disease and gluten sensitivity is a multisystem disorder that has a wide range of symptoms and effects many body functions. The most alarming thing for me is that Celiac disease is often misdiagnosed as Crohns disease, IBS,Chronic fatigue syndrome and acid reflux. I was diagnosed with Crohns disease as a child and have almost all the symptoms listed. Here is a partial list of Celiac indicators:

Abdominal pain, Anemia,constipation,Diarrhea, Distension, Excessive weight loss with a large appetite, excessive weight gain, Fatigue, gas,Headaches,Joint/bone pain, muscle cramps,skin rashes, smelly bowel movements,inside mouth sores, vitamin deficiency, missed periods,delayed puberty and stunted growth in children.

If you are now concerned because your health hasn’t really improved with all the drugs, get tested.There are a few tests for Celiac disease: a blood test that runs the following panel(Antiendomysial antibody, Total serum IgA, Antigliadin antibody,Tissue transglutaminase), an endoscopy biopsy and Human Leukocyte antigen test.

Much of this research came from Dr. Peter Green, Dr. Andrew Weil, Elisabeth Hasselback, Jennifer Esposito

Fistulas and Crohn’s Disease woes

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Since 2011 my Crohn’s disease has been drastically changing. Many things attributed to my declining health. I decided to go to school full time to finish my graphic design degree and I went back to work at a 25 hour plus week job. Then added into all this is friends, family and household time. This cavalcade of stressors lead me to lose sight of eating well and slowing down.

In April 2011 I was hospitalized for a week with an abcess. Then in June 2011 I was transported in an ambulance from my hometown hospital to a bigger hospital for a week due to a UTI infection because the abcess didn’t totally go away.Then it was the same day in June of 2012 that I was again transported to the bigger hospital for a UTI infection and dehydration due to a fistula attached to my colon. In between this I also got Bells Palsy due a nervous system response of being on and off so many antibiotics.Next on August 16, 2013, again I was hospitalized for a UTI due to the same thing. My latest visit to the hospital was March 20th 2014 for the same UTI/ fistula to colon infection.

Each time I have lost 5 to 10 pounds of weight and can’t seem to gain it back. Since 2011 the doctors have wanted me to have surgery to totally remove my colon and the offending fistula. By no means is this a cure for my problems.

In 2013 I graduated with my Associates degree in Graphic Design.Yay, I finally finished my second attempt at a college degree. At the end of April of this year I quit my part-time office job.Now I have slowed down, but at 5ft 1in., I weigh 82lbs and still keep breaking out with UTI’s due to my bladder fistula to colon attachment. I also have changed my diet, but it is hard to not be tempted by flare up foods with kids and family.

My woe for surgery is because In 2008 I had a 3 month temporary colostomy bag and it was the worst experience. Also I have several relatives with ileostomy or colostomy bags who still have horrible Crohn’s or Colitis. Still I’m at a stopping point of what they can do for my Crohns because of the fistula.Surgery is almost inevitable.

A Parent’s Work is Never Done

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I give kudos to the mom or dad who works part-time or full time, does housework plus all the extracurricular activities with their child or children. I tried to be supermom along with the everyday challenges of my Crohn’s Disease. When you live with a chronic disease there are often unexpected road blocks. It’s frustrating because I can plan to go to an event and end up being very ill.

Not so long ago I went to college full-time, worked part-time, ran kids to and from places and also did housework. All of that really took a toll on my health, my well being and loss of me. I finally realized I had to slow down a little to plan better meals and snacks for myself,so that I can be there for family, friends and be a better me.

Skinny Mini’s Struggle to Gain Weight

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  • Increase your calorie intake, but try not to do so by eating a lot of saturated fat. Skinny women who want to gain weight think they’d be happy with any fat, but fat that is not designated can end up anywhere. Genetics determine where your fat will go so eat more good food, and do it slowly.

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    Pursue lean muscle weight gain by exercising and lifting weights. Hire a trainer to guide you in the right direction. Muscle weighs more than fat and distributes itself evenly.

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    Stay away from treadmills and stair stepper machines. Aerobic type exercises are good for the heart but will not cause weight gain. If anything, you’ll burn more calories and lose more weight.

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    Keep track of the amount of calories you consume in a given week. In order to gain weight, add about 500 calories to your norm. After a few weeks if you do not see a noticeable difference, add 500 more. Do this until you begin gaining weight.

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    Consume 20 to 50 percent of your calories in proteins each day. This food group includes chicken breast, turkey breast, lean beef, eggs, fish and milk.

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    Eat 30 to 60 percent of your calories in carbohydrates, which include, potatoes, brown rice, oats, pasta, whole grains, black beans, sweet corn and broccoli.

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    Make sure to eat 20 to 30 percent of your calories in unsaturated fats and consume avocados, nuts and oils which provide your body with essential fatty acids.

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    Drink a vitamin enriched meal replacement powder if you find it hard to eat six nourishing meals. Check the contents on the container before purchasing. Most of these protein drinks are high in nutritional value.

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    Enable your body to absorb a higher amount of nutrients by eating six times a day rather than the traditional three. This recommendation isn’t just for those trying to lose weight. It has been proven to benefit all people of all sizes.

Read more : http://www.ehow.com/how_4557005_can-skinny-woman-gain-weight_.html

As a woman with Crohn’s Disease I’m constantly struggling with maintaining a healthy weight. Even as a child I was called skinny Mini because I was so small and skinny. It wasn’t until I was 14 that I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease. A cavalcade of Crohn”s complications such as UTI’s, my period, allergies and inflammation have always made it difficult to gain or maintain weight for very long.Now as an adult, I get so tired of seeing and hearing all the commercials about how to lose weight.

  • Pursue lean muscle weight gain by exercising and lifting weights. Hire a trainer to guide you in the right direction. Muscle weighs more than fat and distributes itself evenly.

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    Stay away from treadmills and stair stepper machines. Aerobic type exercises are good for the heart but will not cause weight gain. If anything, you’ll burn more calories and lose more weight.

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    Keep track of the amount of calories you consume in a given week. In order to gain weight, add about 500 calories to your norm. After a few weeks if you do not see a noticeable difference, add 500 more. Do this until you begin gaining weight.

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    Consume 20 to 50 percent of your calories in proteins each day. This food group includes chicken breast, turkey breast, lean beef, eggs, fish and milk.

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    Eat 30 to 60 percent of your calories in carbohydrates, which include, potatoes, brown rice, oats, pasta, whole grains, black beans, sweet corn and broccoli.

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    Make sure to eat 20 to 30 percent of your calories in unsaturated fats and consume avocados, nuts and oils which provide your body with essential fatty acids.

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    Drink a vitamin enriched meal replacement powder if you find it hard to eat six nourishing meals. Check the contents on the container before purchasing. Most of these protein drinks are high in nutritional value.

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    Enable your body to absorb a higher amount of nutrients by eating six times a day rather than the traditional three. This recommendation isn’t just for those trying to lose weight. It has been proven to benefit all people of all sizes.

Read more : http://www.ehow.com/how_4557005_can-skinny-woman-gain-weight_.html

A woman who is underweight can develop many health issues such as a weakened immune system, decreased muscle mass, unhealthy hair, skin and nails, weakened bones and the inability to menstruate. Gaining weight and maintaining a healthy lifestyle can decrease the probability of these health issues. Women should look for healthy ways to gain weight, rather than gaining weight through increasing fat on their body.

 Throughout the years I can’t even begin to tell you how many people have said you’re so skinny, you should eat more. Little did they know that I have always had a great appetite, but  many times I felt sick after eating foods.Until a few years ago, I never really considered how much of it could be food allergies and intolorences. After food allergy testing it was found that I’m intolerant to most dairy, also the test was inconclusive to gluten and yeast.

  To gain weight, You are going to have to eat far more than before if you want to gain weight.It takes a little extra planning and a different mindset to eat more frequent small meals, especially if you are on the go. Since body composition is 80% diet, you are going to have to eat 5-6 small meals a day or 3 regular meals and snacks in between each. You need to provide lots and lots of proteins for those hormones to synthesize. This will be a new journey that I hope will get you back to wellness.

 Eat healthy fats

Eat plenty of healthy fats to increase your caloric intake. Eat your egg yolks, bananas,nuts,fish, coconut oil and other healthy fats.

 Increase protein intake

Never let your protein intake go lower than 1g/lb of body weight when you are aiming to add long-term muscle. It’s the building block of muscle, and your body is going to be starving for it.

 Foods that help you gain weight

Whole eggs: It is economical and loaded with protein, vitamins A,D, E plus good cholesterol. make hard boiled eggs, scrambled eggs and even deviled eggs.

Butter: Butter is linked with long term weight gain. Intake of butter should be in moderation, as regular consumption of butter is bad for your heart.

Fish: The vital fatty acids in tuna contain a host of healthy fats, which not only aid in weight gain but also help in maintaining physical well-being.Sardines, tuna, salmon, mackerel, & herring are 5 of the fattiest fish that are also rich in omega 3 fatty acids, known to protect against cardiovascular disease.

Natural fruit and juice: Sip 100-per cent fruit juice that’s low in added sugar and high in nutrients. Also eat fresh or frozen fruit whenever possible.All natural,unsweetened applesauce is also a good way to get your fruit.

Eat lots and lots of healthy vegetables:

  • Broccoli
  • Cauliflower
  • Brussels sprouts
  • Green and red cabbage
    • Asparagus
    • Kale
    • Spinach
    • Swiss chard
    • Collard greens
    • The herb parsley
    • Red and green lettuce
    • Mustard and turnip greens
      • Peas
      • Lentils
      • Soybeans
      • Lima beans
      • Kidney beans
      • Garbanzo beans
      • And other legumes
  • Leeks
  • Onions
  • Shallots
  • Scallions
  • Garlic
  • Sweet potatoes and yams
  • Summer and winter squash

Nut Butters– Spread natural peanut butter, almond butter or cashew butter on bread or crackers. It gives you approximately 192 calories, plus it is extra high in protein.

Energy bars – Are good for when you are on the go and can’t stop for a proper meal and snack. Find bars with no artificial sugars or none at all. They are loaded with good-for-you nuts and oats.

Smoothies – Invest in a blender if you don’t have one because smoothies are a fast way to combine all your nutrients in a convenient take along meal/snack. You can make a few smoothies ahead of time and freeze them too.

Oil – Adding extra fat to your food is an easy way to add calories, choose olive oil, canola oil, etc. which is good for your health and will add those much needed calories too.

Bananas – One banana contains approximately 100 calories. Not only are bananas rich in carbs and nutritious, they’re also great for workout fuel.

 Daily tips to gain weight

Include three to four servings of fruits and vegetables to your daily diet. It is best to consume fruits in their natural form to get all the nutrients.

Make sure you get enough rest.

Oats: A bowl of oatmeal is the perfect nutritious breakfast. It is high in fiber, and it also provides the body with vital nutrients.

Yogurt: The healthy fruit-flavored, yogurt can give you as much as 118 calories. Include it in your daily diet for quick weight gain. If lactose or milk intolerant, buy soy, goat milk or other alternative

Chew food slowly to properly improve digestion.

  • Avoid excessive intake of beverages such as coffee and tea immediately after meals, as this hinders the absorption of minerals like iron.

Gain muscle mass. It’s a good idea to continue to exercise while you attempt to gain weight the healthy way. However, it’s probably best to lay off the cardio (which burns those hard-earned calories) and focus on strength training instead (which builds muscle mass and helps you to gain weight).

  • Strength training includes working with weights and performing exercises such as squats, deadlifts, bench presses, bicep curls, crunches, chin-ups and leg curls. Do not do high energy workouts such as zumba, aerobics and running that helps you lose weight.


 

 

 

 

 

 

Reincarnated From Another Place and Time

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Do you ever get the feeling you were once someone else from another time period and place? Are you an artisan,craftsman, inventor or perhaps just feel lost in today?Maybe you are an old soul trying to make your mark on this new world.

I often have dreams and feelings that I don’t quite belong in this time. That I was royalty or a princess who traveled the world, and had many hobbies.There are so many crafts and hobbies I want to embark on but the daily grind of housework and the new age technology prevents me from getting very far.

I enjoy re-purposing old clothing and fabrics into things that fit into today. Whenever I can wear nice dresses and dress up, it makes me feel so good.

I love to make old furniture look new again. Whether it’s painting it a new color or just bringing back to it’s beauty.Our society seems to throw away a lot of older furniture that just needs a facelift.Then I go to furniture stores and they try to mimic old styles with cheap throw away materials.

I yearn to live in a more tropical climate.The ocean, sand and warmth constantly calls to me even if it is warm here in Wisconsin.

I love to experiment with cooking recipes from around the world. Many days I feel as if I was waited on and cooked delicious meals by a personal chef. There are days I crave my husband’s wonderful deserts that he makes.

Could any of these daydreams and night-time dreams once have been true. I’d love to know the answer just for piece of mind. Possibly someday my questions will be answered.